Did you feel that? That recoil? I hear so many kids whine that they are bored when out at our recesses. My response, “well, that’s your choice”. And it 💯 is 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗶𝗿 𝗰𝗵𝗼𝗶𝗰𝗲.
I really started thinking about it and watching other moms (and even reflecting on my own mothering habits).
Most moms strive to make their kids so happy all the time that we can’t imagine allowing or even building in pockets of boredom. Why would we do that? For imagination sake! And yes, we can tell those that choose to do this and those that don’t in how your children behave.
𝗗𝗼 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗯𝘂𝗶𝗹𝗱 𝗶𝗻 𝗽𝗼𝗰𝗸𝗲𝘁𝘀 𝗼𝗳 𝗯𝗼𝗿𝗲𝗱𝗼𝗺 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗸𝗶𝗱𝘀?
Why? Why would you want your children to be bored on a regular basis?
Quick story time… I’m a full time Paraeducator at a local elementary school. My job is to conduct “outside classrooms” for the kids during their recess since we cannot have all the kids mingling. It’s all part of the new Covid protocols that allow the kids to be in-person at school.
Do you know how many times I hear “I’m bored“ when there are so many options available to these little darlings? They are choosing to be bored. I honestly think it is due to them rarely having to use their imaginations. Hear me out. Kids these days are given so many gadgets, toys, and so many activities thrust upon them, they don’t have to think. Is it any wonder when we say, “go have fun” they can’t figure out how to entertain themselves On their own without these devises?
How do we foster this imagination?
Build in pockets of boredom.
I hear you groaning... Do you know what they will do if left to their own? How will I get my time with them always awake and being bored?
Here is an idea… When my kiddos were phasing out their daily long bap times, we changed it to an hour of “quiet time” in their rooms. They had to be on their beds or quietly in their room and could read, play with toys, draw, etc. But they had to be quietly on their own. That still gave me some quiet or time to do what I needed to do while it allowed them time to make their own choices.
This allows the kids to choose their own activities, using their imagination to fill that time or they could also choose to be bored and realize that doesn’t hurt either. It’s okay for them to be bored. Often when they choose to be bored, they snooze.
Kids on the playground that get these pockets of boredom in their lives, I think become the ones that can easily take a blank field with a ball and turn it into a wonderland of fun! Those that don’t, whine and plead to have their time filled for them. Do your kids a favor and show them being bored is a choice.
To this day, my kids still value this quiet time.